With Christmas Just Round the Corner and Commitments to Work, Home, Family Can Put a Lot of Stress on a Relationship.
Here come the Holidays, for some of us this is a wonderful time of celebrating family and the spirit of the season. For other people, this time of year can be a nightmare. A nightmare filled with juggling work, shopping, holiday parties, family, and last but not least, sanity. This time of year can be very rough on families and with Christmas just round the corner and commitments to work, home, family can put a lot of stress on a relationship.
when it comes to the Christmas season, there just are not enough days in the week to accomplish all you need to. You can get so caught up in all the parties, family functions, and shopping that a new relationship can experience much stress.
Maybe this Holiday season, you can try a good coping technique and see if your relationship can manage to make it to New Years Day. Not all strategies work for all people, you will have to pick and choose as to how you can apply this strategy to your personal situation. Applying a little creativity here may be necessary.
The first and one of the larger problems in a relationship this time of year is the amount of quality time spent together. You must remember, before all the insanity of the holiday rush, you were spending 4 or 5 evenings together each week. Now, you are going to be lucky to get one. This is enough to make a new mate feel left out and cast aside.
Now that you have that information, you one and only priority is that you come up with a way to spend healthy time together. The first thing that you will do is get together and discuss each others schedules throughout the holidays. Now that you have the schedules, you must schedule at least one night if not two each week to spend quality time with each other, no one else included. You both must adhere to the schedule that you have made. Remember, this is time for just you and your partner.
Once you figure out the nights you can be together, plan something nice or special for the time you will be together. You can make this a time to go to the movies, there are always lots of good movies this time of year. Possibly do something at home where it is quiet and relaxing. Always remember that these evenings are for the two of you, no one else.
During this time together you could also do something productive, let’s say you both have Christmas shopping left to do, you could go out together and do the shopping and take in dinner. This will work with anything you need to accomplish and can do together.
Be aware that these special nights will not be the only time you see each other. You will have work Christmas parties, other parties, as well as things to do with each others families.
The reason that you need the scheduled time is that none of the events just mentioned will give you any type of quality time, those events will give the two of you distraction and stress. You need the scheduled time to keep the flame lit, keep the romance, and just learn to be with each other.
Just look outside, lights, decorations, crowded sidewalks, and stores open late. Breathe……. And know that it will all be over for another year in a few weeks. In the mean time keep a positive and happy attitude. Happy Holidays
Do not let your marriage suffer this festive season. No body want you to get a divorce over the holiday, so make sure that you plan your family time nicely